Who Your RealFriends Are

RealFriends are community members recognized by the RealSelf Community team for openly sharing their journey and supporting others along the way. They believe in the power of making informed, healthy choices and embody the best of our community’s spirit of transparency, helpfulness, and respect.

The RealFriends program is our way of thanking these superstars for their contributions to the community. We recognize our RealFriends with a profile badge, thank-you gifts, and opportunities to make their voice heard about potential changes with early looks at new features before they launch to the community.

How to Become a RealFriend?

To be considered for the RealFriends program, you must be an active RealSelf member with a track record of sharing your story and helping make our community a better place. Members who consistently support and help out others are most likely to be selected.

If you think you’re RealFriend material and would like to be considered, please let us know.

What RealFriends Do

Once you become a RealFriend, our only expectation is that you’ll keep doing what you do so well: share your experiences while supporting and helping others in your community.

You’ll also have opportunities to interact directly with RealSelf team members who value your input on upcoming changes and new features.

And if you’re up for it, you might have an opportunity share your story with a women’s lifestyle magazine, on the RealSelf blog, or to participate in some fun social media campaigns.

Frequently Asked Questions About RealFriends

Why wasn’t I selected as a RealFriend?

We appreciate your interest in becoming a RealFriend! Don’t give up hope. At the moment, the RealFriends program includes only the most active, transparent, and supportive members from five pilot communities, but it will continue to expand. If you’ve asked to join, your name has been placed on a waiting list, and you will be reconsidered as the program grows.

If you haven’t yet been invited, it could be for one of these reasons:

  • Your activity:

Have you created an account and been active on RealSelf for several consecutive months? Have you both shared your own experience and supported other members?

  • Contact info and spam filters:

Is your contact information correct? Are your email filters blocking emails from RealSelf? We may have tried inviting you and received no response.

  • Code of Conduct:

We vet contributions by our most active users to ensure they adhere to our Code of Conduct and Terms of Service. If you believe this may be the reason you haven’t received an invitation, please be mindful of them going forward.

  • Your Location:

At this time, the RealFriends program is only available to residents of the United States.

I got an email from RealSelf saying that I’m invited to join RealFriends. How do I tell you I want to join (or not)?

Congrats! Just respond directly to the email, and you’ll get a confirmation email within a day or two with info on what’s next.

Are RealFriends expected to post only positive reviews and comments?

No. RealSelf members value comments and reviews that are honest, helpful, informative, and objective, and we welcome all contributions that meet this bar. Like all community members, RealFriends must conform to the RealSelf Code of Conduct and Terms of Service.

Are RealFriends paid for writing reviews or asked to write favorable reviews?

RealFriends are not paid for any reason, nor do we ask them to write positive reviews.

Do RealFriends receive products in exchange for their activity on the RealSelf site?

At times, RealFriends may receive free or discounted products or services as perks for their participation in the program. These are not provided in direct exchange for engagement with the RealSelf site.

Can brands who advertise on RealSelf directly contact or otherwise influence RealFriends?

Brands have no direct contact with or influence over RealFriends’ opinions of their products, treatments, or affiliated providers.

I’ve had an interaction with a RealFriend that I don’t think meets the RealSelf Code of Conduct. What should I do?

RealFriends are expected to live up to the RealSelf Code of Conduct in every interaction with other RealSelf members. If you believe their behavior doesn’t align with the Code of Conduct, please contact us.